Make The Decision Right
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Hey friend, Decision-making has been on my mind a lot this year. Not the big ones, necessarily. Even the small, everyday decisions seem to hold more weight when you realise how much of life is shaped by them. But there’s a single quote that completely reframed how I think about decisions. It came from Harvard psychologist Ellen Langer: “Instead of worrying about making the right decision, make the decision right.” That line hit me. Because we tend to obsess over which option is “right,” As if there’s a perfect path hidden in some parallel universe And our job is to crack the code. But what if the power isn’t in the choice itself— It’s in the commitment to the choice? Here’s the pattern I’ve noticed in myself and others: We hesitate. We crowdsource opinions. We run simulations in our heads. We don’t actually commit—we hedge. But half-decisions lead to half-results. And indecision? That’s just slow-motion regret. Yes, you’ll make mistakes. Yes, some choices won’t work out. But here’s what’s more dangerous than a wrong choice—never making one at all. You’ve likely had those micro-moments: Standing in front of two chocolate bars, frozen by the thought of choosing the “wrong” one. Checking what others ordered before you commit to your own meal. It’s not the chocolate bar that matters. It’s that you’re outsourcing your confidence. So what if the best approach was this: Whatever you choose—own it. Be in it. Immerse yourself in it. And deal with the outcome when it comes. That’s how decisions become right. Not because they were perfect, But because you made them work. Quote I likedYou can take a chance for being loved or hated for who you really are, or go to your grave holding onto a character that you never were. - Jim Carey Recommendation for youThe MindStrong Sport app. We just launched a new design. PodcastI have a podcast that helps you build a stronger mind to take on life. Like me, it's a work in progress. Subscribe to the podcast here. (p.s. If you can subscribe on Youtube that would be amazing.) I'll see you later, Lewis Try my Mindset app for sport here |
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