The Grass Isn't Greener
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Hi friend, One of my flaws has always been thinking the grass might be greener somewhere else. I’ve thought about it for a long time — to the point where it chewed me up. I’d sit with decisions for far too long, caught in the spiral of what if I waited? what if the better option is just around the corner? It held me back. For years. I struggled to make choices that felt truly mine, because I was too afraid I’d miss out on something better. That I’d commit to something good, but not great. I got so caught up in the idea of a parallel universe — one where I made the “right” decision — that I forgot to live in the one I was actually in. But then my therapist said something that stuck: “The grass isn’t greener. It’s just different grass.” That hit me. It’s not that one choice is better or worse. It’s just different. And you’re not stepping into a new world to improve your life — you’re stepping in to explore it. You’re not chasing better. You’re following curiosity. And that shift changes everything. Because if you can step into something new with the awareness that it might not go how you expect — and still be okay with that — then you’re not chasing greener grass. You’re growing into someone who can handle any patch of earth they stand on. Let the decision be about discovery, not perfection. Let the experience be enough — even if it doesn’t end the way you hoped. Because if you don’t go, you’ll never find out. And that’s what you really risk missing. Quote I likedThe path isn't a straight line; it's a spiral. you continually come back to things you thought you understood and see deeper truths. - Barry H. Gillespie Recommendation for youMy latest video on Youtube: I Asked Over 1000 Athletes Their Biggest Challenge, This Is The Top 5 https://youtu.be/_Be4vu8nsiU PodcastI have a podcast that helps you build a stronger mind to take on life. Like me, it's a work in progress. Subscribe to the podcast here. (p.s. If you can subscribe on Youtube that would be amazing.) I'll see you later, Lewis Try my Mindset app for sport here |
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