You’re Not Falling Behind
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Hey friend, I've been thinking a lot recently about comparison. It's something that's come up a lot with athletes I've been speaking and working with. I even did a youtube video on something similar. Not the obvious kind, where we measure ourselves against people we don’t know. But the subtle kind—where we measure ourselves against who we thought we’d be by now. It’s easy to look at someone else’s story and think, Why isn’t mine going that way? Or to revisit the imagined future we mapped out years ago and feel like we’ve missed the mark. But just because your story isn’t going the same way as someone else’s… And just because it isn’t unfolding the way you expected… Doesn’t mean it’s worse. It just means it’s yours. And the more time you spend trying to edit your present to match someone else’s path—or an alternate version of your own—the further you drift from where life is actually happening. We get caught in mental parallel universes. What if I had made that choice instead?
What if I had stayed? Left? Said yes? Said no?
These imagined versions of life might feel harmless. But they quietly erode our ability to be fully in the one we’re actually living. Every time I’ve chased those parallel stories, I’ve missed what was real— The people in front of me. The place I was in. The moment I was meant to be part of. And the more time you spend in the life that isn’t, the less you connect with the life that is. So if you’re questioning your story right now— The pace, the direction, the outcomes— Remember: you’re not falling behind. You’re just not there yet. And the only thing you actually miss out on… Is the one life that’s happening right in front of you. Quote I likedThere are smiles you haven't seen yet from friend you are yet to meet Recommendation for youChris Williamson's episode with Naval Ravikant. Unbelievable amount to take away from it. 3 hours that I'm going to have to go back and listen to again. PodcastI have a podcast that helps you build a stronger mind to take on life. Like me, it's a work in progress. Subscribe to the podcast here. (p.s. If you can subscribe on Youtube that would be amazing.) I'll see you later, Lewis Try my Mindset app for sport here |
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